Social Anxiety Therapy in West Sussex
Are you struggling with social anxiety?
Do you feel fearful and out of control around other people?
Would you like to learn how to be calm in social settings?
I can help you
✓ Feeling calm around other people
✓ Being positive about social interactions
✓ Having the confidence to contribute to conversations with a sense of ease
✓ Controlling your imagination, rather than your imagination controlling you Just imagine having a sense of freedom when around other people.
Imagine no more…
✗Avoiding contact with people you may not know
✗Worrying about other people’s potential negative opinions
✗Planning your escape in social settings
✗Always dreading a worst case scenario
It’s time to beat social anxiety
“My daughter attended five sessions for anxiety and I really do think it’s made a big difference. Well worth going if anxiety is taking over your life.” – Kerry, mother of social anxiety client.
The key to overcoming social anxiety is to learn how to control two main areas of your thinking.
Firstly, learning to regain control of your imagination, rather than letting your imagination control you. I’m sure you’ve experienced far too often thoughts of what if something goes wrong? What will people think of me? All those thoughts racing through your mind are hard work – let’s get them under control.
Secondly, we will develop skills to help you learn how to manage expectations. Most people with social anxiety are either experiencing the problem, or expecting it to rear it’s head at some point soon – there is very often a “fear of the fear” anxiety creates.
We’ll neutralise that line of thinking, and give you a solid foundation to adopt more positive thinking instead.
Don’t struggle quietly
If you are struggling, I genuinely believe CBT Therapy is a useful way to help you overcome your concerns around social anxiety. CBT isn’t about digging up the past and endlessly analysing it and looking intrusively for hidden meaning.
Whilst CBT will acknowledge root causes and what may be driving a problem, the work I do is focused on teaching you how to change right now.
Tailored to your needs
My approach is as unique as the person I work with, so I’ll find the right way to work with you. Perhaps you would like to begin slowly? Just want to talk on a general level about your concerns around social anxiety and get things off your chest – no problem.
Or perhaps you would prefer to really get stuck in straight away and learn to master some self mind control and coping techniques – no problem.
Or perhaps a mixture of the two? We’ll work out exactly how you will best respond to learning to change, and keep on working at it – I won’t give up on you.
Things can be different
Social anxiety can be beaten. Whilst learning to change isn’t always simple and straightforward, it certainly can be done. Time and time again my clients report back that in retrospect, the hardest part of therapy is getting started.
Sometimes it can be a big step to admit that there is a problem beyond your control, and seeing a therapist may seem intimidating.
I would suggest that if you’ve made it to this webpage then you’ve probably made a decision on some level that enough is enough, and that it’s time to take action.
“Steve is friendly, humorous and pragmatic with his approach; this helped me to see a way through. I have seen positive results and feel I’m getting back to my old self.” – Hugh, client.
What’s the next step?
Take action, you’ve struggled long enough. Don’t spend any more time hoping that change will just happen – it probably won’t. Anxieties generally get worse over time if left unchallenged.
The sooner you seek help, the sooner you will learn to regain control. Get the help you deserve and banish social anxiety from your life, once and for all.
You can pay as you go each session, or pay a single fixed fee and secure my services for 12 months worth of support for your concerns as and when they arise, regardless of the number of sessions. Check out my appointments page for more details.
Complete the contact form below, call me or send me an e-mail and we can discuss your requirements and arrange your first appointment.
The primary distinguishing feature of Social Anxiety, also known as Social Phobia, is an intense, recurrent fear of social or performance situations. Individuals with Social Anxiety / Social Phobia are excessively afraid of acting in a manner that will be perceived as embarrassing, or of exhibiting anxiety symptoms that others will observe and judge negatively (e.g., sweating, blushing, stammering, shaky hands, trembling voice).
Exposure to the feared social situation results in an immediate and intense level of anxiety, sometimes to the extent of having a panic attack. This anxiety and its associated avoidance behaviors cause significant emotional distress, and may considerably interfere with daily functioning and interpersonal relationships. Social anxiety has its roots in our very nature as social beings. Humans have the unique capability of self-consciousness, an awareness of ourselves in contrast to others. Many people are greatly concerned about how they appear to others.
A national poll taken in the late 1980s concluded that more people feared public speaking than they feared death. The common concern, or fear, regarding how we stand in relation to others may in part explain why social anxiety is so prevalent. People with social anxiety/phobia disorders suffer greatly with disabling fear and demoralization. Fears of being judged as anxious, imperfect, or somehow not up to par with others, leads to fears of embarrassment, humiliation, or shame.
Avoidance of those possibilities creates a life that is limited by fear, anxiety, and often depression. Social Anxiety Disorder, like other anxiety problems, seems to have a genetic basis, as the disorder runs in families. Brain chemistry, perhaps related to serotinin levels, may play an important role in social anxiety disorder. In persons with anxiety disorders, the amygdala, a part of the brain involved in processing emotional responses, may be overactive.
Anxious behaviors may also be transmitted from parents to their children through direct exposure and observation. Persons with an anxious temperament, a history of psychological trauma, stress overload, poor self-esteem or personality issues may be predisposed to the development of anxiety disorders.